At the holidays, it’s more important than ever to remember to set aside time to talk about the concepts of thanks and giving. We often say “let’s give thanks” or “tell what you’re thankful for!” without giving much thought to whether our family members are really feeling thankful — or just going through the motions. We also might encourage gift-giving and receiving without remembering to reinforce what it actually means to have a giving spirit. Talking about thanks and giving can help your family tune in to the real meaning of the season.

Try these collections of conversation starters that we’ve created just for this time of year. From gratitude to generosity, they’re designed to cover all the big topics that are on everyone’s minds right now.